I have a lot of things to be thankful for and during the months of November and December, I tend to focus on those things. However, this year has been difficult. Despite a lot of good news: my 10th book release, positive book reviews, good friends and family, health, etc., I’ve been feeling a bit…well, a bit…meh. One super critical email and a few veiled insults from well-meaning friends had pretty well sucked the life out of me. Just when I felt like getting in the bed, pulling the covers over my head and staying there for a month, I got an email from one of my publishers. To be honest, I was expecting criticism (it’s been one of those years). In fact, I could feel my stomach muscles tense as I braced myself and opened the email. Instead of criticism, it was kind. In fact, it was the nicest note I’ve ever received. When the shock subsided, I felt rejuvenated.
Writing can be isolating. There’s one author sitting alone at their laptop, typing night after night with only the fictional characters in their head for company (or in my case, two demanding poodles). The point is writing isn’t exactly a team sport. It’s easy to get caught up in the negative reviews and critical emails. However, one kind word can completely wipe out the negative energy. One good review. One kind comment on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram or a kind email can re-energize and refuel a person who’s been running on empty.
Thankfully the holiday season often comes with stories of acts of kindness which, whether directed at me or others, brings a smile to my face and gives me hope for the future. Today, on my morning news, they told of a waitress who was given a $1,500 tip at a time when she needed it most (honestly, who couldn’t use an extra $1,500). Gestures of kindness don’t have to be grand to bring joy. After reporting the story of the waitress, the news reporter mentioned that a kind person bought her Starbucks coffee while she was waiting in line. The gesture cost $3-$5 (depending on what she ordered), but it warmed her heart (and mine).
It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day drama of life and forget what really matters. But, practicing acts of kindness can help not only the person receiving the gift, but the person giving it as well. Will I be leaving $1,500 tips for waiters? Sorry, but my pockets aren’t that deep. However, kindness doesn’t have to be expensive. In fact, kindness (saying please, thank you, holding the door for someone) doesn’t cost anything, but it is powerful and can heal and restore a weary soul.